When You've Had a Bad Day
Do they hate you too? Here’s my deal ... I was in a meeting the other week with my peers (other managers in my market place) and because I am young enough to be their son, and have had somewhat of a successful run here at my office, I have somehow become a target of scorn and resentment.
In fact, let’s just call me Mr. Target of scorn and resentment.
I swear — some of them like seriously hate me. Now, am I arrogant? I don’t think confidence is arrogance, so let’s say no. Have I had some public successes? Some, but I have always tried to show my more humble side. Are they jealous? Most likely, YES!
My point is, it’s no fun being the target, if you know what I mean. It takes energy to
defend myself, and to tell the truth, it hurts.
BUT the good news is this — I have tremendous support from those who matter. I have great bosses who get me, family who love me, and confidence that I know I am doing what I am supposed to be doing.
So the next time you have a more “veteran” person trying to put you down, or trample on your success, let them know, you’re not interested. After all, you have work to do!
Darrin Friedman is the branch vice president of Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage Chevy Chase, Md.
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Comments
Darrin -
How is their tenure relevant?
If someone is trying to "trample on your success" that's really their problem, no?
Posted by: Jim Duncan | May 23, 2008 12:52 PM
I once had someone tell me "anyone can get a few sales" - I have been outproducing them ever since.
Posted by: Jim Downing | May 28, 2008 12:31 PM
It's hard teaching "old dogs" new tricks and "new dogs old tricks" but somewhere in between you find that common ground called "success".
Posted by: Dominique Thomas | May 29, 2008 02:35 PM
Your professionalism speaks for itself. I have worked with you and I know how dedicated your are.
It is not about jealousy, it is about feeling threatened or looking back at where they were at your age.
Posted by: Elaine | May 31, 2008 12:25 PM